Outside Professional Help

  1. Make a Life Timeline
    • Write down every memory you remember in one document, in any order. ​
    • Approximate times are fine; exact dates are not necessary. ​
    • Identifying every component of a problem helps in solving it. ​
  2. Group Memories by Emotions
    • Identify memories that evoke similar emotions. ​
  3. Pick the Emotion Causing the Most Problems
    • Focus on emotions like grief, anger, fear, or even misplaced positive emotions. ​
  4. Understand the Purpose of the Emotion
    • Learn what each emotion is for to process it effectively. ​
  5. Focus on One or Two Emotions
    • Avoid being overwhelmed by multiple emotions. ​
  6. Switch Emotions if Stuck
    • Explore connections between emotions (e.g., grief leading to anger). ​
  7. Write Everything Down
    • Use a notebook to organize your thoughts and prevent overthinking. ​

Processing Emotions

  1. Reflect on Changes in Perception
    • How have events altered your worldview and thinking? ​
  2. Analyze Actions Influenced by Perception
    • Consider how experiences have changed your interactions. ​
  3. Evaluate the Impact of Changes
  • Determine whether these changes are beneficial or harmful. ​
  1. Connect Emotions to Perceptions
  • Recognize how perceptions shaped by life events influence emotions. ​
  1. Reframe Negative Thoughts
  • Use cognitive reframing to shift from negative to neutral or positive thoughts. ​
  • Example: “I don’t think highly of myself” → “I think about myself.” ​

Actions Outside of Writing ​

  1. Conversations with Trusted People
    • Discuss troubling thoughts with people you trust. ​
  2. Clear Up Miscommunication
    • Strengthen relationships by resolving misunderstandings. ​
  3. Personal Conversations with Harmful Individuals
    • Approach with caution; these conversations can be healing but complex. ​

With Professional Help ​

Notes:

  • Some therapists offer free or reduced-cost sessions. ​
  • Online therapy options are available, reducing travel needs. ​

Steps to Get Professional Help:

  1. Ask Your Doctor or Insurance
    • Request referrals to mental health professionals. ​
  2. Search on Google Maps
    • Find specialists in your area by searching for therapy or specific services. ​
  3. Contact the Specialist
    • Call or email to set up an appointment and ask questions about the process. ​
  4. Attend the Intake Appointment
    • Introduce yourself and assess if the therapist is someone you can open up to. ​
  5. Continue Therapy Sessions
    • Be honest to help the therapist understand your situation. ​
    • Share at your own pace; start with smaller issues if needed. ​
  6. Get a Diagnosis (if needed)
    • Therapists can provide diagnoses for clinical conditions. ​

Additional Resources

  1. Get Evaluated for Conditions
    • Seek evaluations for Autism, ADHD, schizophrenia, etc., if needed. ​
  2. Coordinate Care Between Specialists
    • Facilitate communication between specialists for comprehensive care. ​